The Rise of the Traveling Narcissist

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Hello. My name is Georg and I am a traveling narcissist.
It truly is hard to admit and honestly, embarrassing. Narcissism is defined as the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes. Guilty.
I came to realize my affliction as I was sitting watching my Twitter and Instagram notifications pour in after a recent series of photo postings. With each notification came a sense of relief, joy and fulfillment. This is so fucking stupid and goes against everything that I stand for. Yet there I was, admiring the accolades and ego boosting validation of mostly complete strangers on the internet.
So. Fucking. Stupid.
I decided to come clean and write about this embarrassing affliction as I assume a vast majority of travel minded social media users share a similar shame. We travel to gain enriching experiences. To see & feel the reality of the world in all of it’s complexity, the beauty and the struggles, the people, the animals and the landscapes.  We seek to form lasting experiences and memories so that when our short time on earth comes to an end, we may say that we truly lived life to the fullest. So why the hell are we so concerned with showing off our travels to others? For some, there may be monetary motivations as in the case of paid travel bloggers, sponsorships or marketing promotion. Fair enough. However the promotion of travel and experiences seems to have led to the development of a culture of ‘look at me’ travelers. Case study: The High on Life (Sundayfundayzs) crew. If you are unfamiliar, this is a collection of young(ish) males who travel around doing crazy shit and produce videos of themselves. They have a huge & loyal following of impressionable young kids. The High on Life crew made news last year for a stunt they pulled in Yellowstone National Park where they purposely & illegally veered off the established path onto the sensitive bacterial mats of the hot springs in an attempt, and in their own words, “to get the perfect shot”. Why were they after the perfect shot? Because they make a living showing off. Seriously. Their entire business model centers around their ability to demonstrate how ‘awesome’ they and their travels are and in return obtain sponsorships. They are professional traveling narcissists.  As a result, their impressionable followers seek to emulate and born is a systemic culture of traveling for the sake of demonstrating how awesome your life is. Should it bother me? Probably not if I am to be true to my intentions but for some reason it does bother me. Jealousy? (I just looked at my phone to see how many likes I was up to)

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The Internet’s response to the High on Life’s self-centered antics

So. Fucking. Stupid.
Many suggest that the need to show off is routed in our own insecurities. After all, if we were truly content with our lives, the experience alone would be enough. Perhaps this is true for my own personal experience. I grew up as the poor kid in a relatively affluent community. I didn’t set foot on an airplane until I was in college and collected cans and bottles on the side of the road to save up for school trips. This will set one up for some later in life insecurities. Yet here I am, an accomplished world traveler, successful professional, healthy, well-adjusted and living by all measures, one truly incredible life that I am grateful for. Yet I still look at my phone to see how many likes I receive.
So. Fucking. Stupid.
Now I will admit, I have been profoundly inspired by others on social media. The late Harry Devert (RIP) was one such person who regularly inspired me to get off the couch and do something enriching. Of course, I have no idea if Harry found fulfillment in the sharing of his adventures but a part of me really wants to believe that he simply shared his stories and photos for the sake of inspiring others, to make them smile and act on their dreams without expectation for monetary return or superficial validation. This is admirable.This is what I want and aspire to be.

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An inspiring photo from Harry Devert’s Instagram 

Do you think you could take a trip and not post about it on social media?  Do you simply enjoy your experiences in life without the innate desire for validation through acknowledgment? Do you share with the pure intent of inspiring others? If so, I envy and truly look up to you.

I am interested in your thoughts. Like & Comment below!
(shit there I go again, setting myself up for  validation through your interactions. I have some work to do)

 

 

 


117 thoughts on “The Rise of the Traveling Narcissist

  1. well I really love your travel home logo! LOL yes, yes, no! ‘some dance to remember, some dance to forget…’ Acknowledgement is the first step towards adjustment of habits. I think real pretend friends make for such heart-warming validation (and I am kidding) – that it should be used as the slide rule by shrinks in determining what is your biggest personal issue, depending on a simple list of questions about your Net usage etc. Have fun! 🙂

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  2. As human beings we communicate with others. Sharing our experiences similar and unsmiling there is nothing wrong with that. If you said all you said to a person over a cup of coffee and they appeared to have closed their eyes and been unresponsive you would prompt them to see if they were ok and see if they heard you. Having a blog is the same except you can’t see everyone out there reading your blog unless they press like. Wanting some conformation someone is paying attention is the most natural thing in the world. Don’t beat yourself up about it. 😊

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to provide your insight and comments. Very well said. I suppose this is more a personal rant to remind myself of who/what I aspire to be and to help maintain a healthy balance. Thank you once again!

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  3. Meant to say similar and unsimilar something to have a bang on about for me I guess is self correcting phones ha ha. Hope you have a great day.

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  4. What a thought provoking honest post! I know many readers can relate with you. It is true that our need to show off is routed from our insecurities. Human beings had the deepest desire and craving to be appreciated and when those were unmet we become insecure. It is a noble aspiration to inspire others, make them smile, help them act on their dreams without the thought of getting anything in return and I am with you on that. Thank you for sharing your life 🙂

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  5. I find it very hard to travel and not post about it in some way. I don’t think I’m a narcissist but I find I do enjoy sharing with friends and like anyone get the dopamine rush from the like tallying up. I write and share because I love to do that but it somehow seems now that if no one knows what I’m doing or likes it, the experience is lesser and this is a completely conditioned mindset created by an obsession with social media. So.fucking.stupid indeed. How to change a conditioned mindset though? Perhaps we should all embrace our obsession with likes and get on with it anyhow?

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    1. Interesting, thank you for sharing and I am glad my words were able to spark some thoughts! It certainly isn’t an easy topic with a clear line. Step on this side if you are a narcissist. Step over here if you are not. We all get that rise from sharing and maybe it truly can be healthy. I like to think balance is what drives a healthy experience. Again, thank you for taking the time to comment, greatly appreciated!

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    2. I don’t think “embracing our obsession” is the way to go. We shouldn’t let social media control our feelings, our thoughts and actions. We’re smarter than that.

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  6. I admire your honesty. I think all of us have a bit of narcissism, many just won’t admit it. And nowadays, if you don’t post it on social media, did it really happen? LOL.

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    1. Very well said, and I am glad I am not alone in this affliction! lol Thank you for taking the time to comment and provide your insight 🙂

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  7. I was talked into starting my travel blog by friends who often can’t travel and wanted to share our experiences. I was adamant it wouldn’t become a burden and it hasn’t. I enjoy reliving my travels and my few faithful followers tel me they do too.
    Also, I really like getting lots of “likes” 🙂

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    1. Good!We are all unique individuals and the sharing of our travels certainly can lead to healthy fulfillment. Balance. 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, appreciate hearing from you 🙂

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  8. Hmm blogging motivations generally are fraught with ego traps of all sorts. Mostly I blog because I enjoy that others appear to enjoy what they read and see. I take their responses at face value. I write books. I love writing them and wouldn’t stop but the biggest kick is when someone reads one. I’m pretty sure I’d still post and write without an audience but it makes it richer. There is a downside. If I don’t blog then what might my audience think. Am I letting them down?

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    1. Very well thought out comment, thank you! It sounds like you have a healthy relationship with your blogging/social media endeavors which is very respectable. Your pleasure from writing and sharing serves as an extension to the fulfillment you receive from your physical travels. Thanks again, appreciate your thoughts!

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  9. Yep, this definitely sums me up too but I have definitely received encouragement along the way in the real world that’s brought me to this position. I currently live in a fairly settled way around 3000 miles from most of my family and friends but prior to this I’ve had a number of 3-6 month stints living abroad as well. Keeping in touch with everyone individually is tough and quite time consuming, especially because you suddenly become 10 times more interesting when you live abroad. My blog’s first incarnation was a series of (well appreciated) emails sent to close friends and family letting them know what I was up to but clogging up people’s inboxes started to seem obnoxious so I moved the location. I could have left my blog private but making people remember a password seemed a bit diva-y so I left it public and then realised I enjoyed the fact that complete strangers were reading it too.

    I feel a lot better after my confession, thanks for this!

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    1. And I certainly think sharing for the sake of sharing is both OK and an acceptable way to boost the enrichment of our travels. The negative aspect comes when one allows the desire to obtain validation trump the actual travel experience itself. Enjoyed reading your thoughts as well as your blog. Put me in the category of someone who enjoys reading your writings and following your journey.

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  10. Good post! I’d like to believe I write to inspire and aren’t on the market for sponsorships. But then again, getting a few likes means someone has read your writing and that feels good. But the question is, how far are you willing to go to rack up likes and shares? If you’re being an irresponsible traveler in the process, then that’s not cool. I’m willing to accept shamelessness to a certain degree but not if the traveler is leaving a negative (ecological, economical, social) impact in his/her host location.

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    1. Great point regarding the negative impact traveler. Appreciate your thoughts and comments. All good stuff and things for all of us to think about as we navigate our way through a traveled life 🙂

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  11. I usually post after my trip. If the region offers restricted or paid Wi-Fi, the chances are more likely that I won’t post during my trip. It is nice to get a like or two. From my observation, I’m loosing that need for validation. It’s best to live “not expecting” as in life

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  12. Geo, what you are experiencing is not something new. You, however, may be a little young to have experienced the “post-trip” dinner party with the interminable slide shows or super 8 movies projected on a sheet hung on the wall in a darkened room. “This is when we landed, this is us picking up our luggage…..” I remember it well. I still have those slides and movies from my parents. (And from when I was a child.) While less photos were taken (because of the sheer cost) it doesn’t mean that it didn’t happen. That is one of the concerns of the move to digital imagery; that the concrete photos and movies don’t exist. Digital storage media also has a half-life. It is vulnerable to damage, though we seem to feel those images are immortal.

    I don’t think you are particularly narcissistic. I think you are trying to share experiences, and the best gift to give others is the gift of making a memory. Your sharing is taking people places they cannot go. As long as you are honest and thoughtful in what you present to others, then you are offering a gift – a piece of yourself. Thank you.

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  13. Thanks for following my Blog yesterday,hopefully you remember, I posted on my travels in Egypt. Your blog looks very interesting and I’ll be sure to rummage around here. I’ve read this post and all the comments and won’t belabour what others have already said. I guess, we all do seek some form of validation. For me though, it’s not so important that I break the ceiling with the number of likes. I like to think that whatever you post is a form of stimulating thought with others, having a conversation, pondering and exchanging perspectives as if we were around a camp fire. The firewood is the post you create as subject matter. Travelling and sharing pictures can’t simply be about boasting where you’ve been – it is so much more than that. I like to see it as a medium for understanding other people and their cultures and celebrating this beautiful, amazing planet. Besides, each time you travel, you learn something about yourself too. Surely that’s worth sharing.
    Great to meet you Geo. Chevvy

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  14. Speaking of that perfect shot. I went hiking the other day in the National Park ‘Slovensky Raj’ in Slovakia. We got to the top of ‘Tomasovsky Vyhlad’..a lookout that’s quite high. There are no barriers, no gates, no protection, one wrong step and that’s it. You fall hundreeds of meters and probably won’t survive. Now, there was a family with two young children. The father was taking the photograph and the two girls and their mother were in that perfect shot, near the cliff, with one of the girls’s feet in the air over that cliff. She was encouraged by her mother who said ‘This will look great on the picture’. For that one perfect picture, risking your own life and that of your children. Crazy.

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    1. It has gotten crazy, very well said! Here in the US there are stories all the time of people falling off cliffs, getting attacked by wild animals, etc. all in the pursuit of that ‘epic’ shot. Ridiculous. Thanks for commenting!

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  15. This post reminds me of this moment near the end of Bo Burnham’s new comedy special, Make Happy, where he talks about the incessant tendency we millennials have to perform for one another, because we need validation that our thoughts and experiences matter to other people. (I normally despise any use of the term “millennial,” but this was the one time it rung true for me.) It made me want to stop “performing” on my social media. It’s hard though, because I’m trying to build cred as a writer and provide myself with accountability to work more often, and sharing via social media helps with this.

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    1. Excellent points, I whole heartily agree. There is a level of social media performance that we all seek and reading your comment resonates with me as I also agree that a level of following and like performance is needed to build up your cred. All good points, onward and upward with a healthy balance!

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  16. “Travel and not post about it?” Umm, no! That’s not going to happen! 😀 I love sharing the knowledge of Travel & just want to encourage those who can to GO SEE and DO!! 😀 Great post with honest, thought provoking insight. I am awake now! Thanks & have a GREAT Day!! 😀

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  17. Interesting thoughts. But it does make one wonder where the dividing line is between a healthy desire for interaction and an “it’s all about me” attitude. Are you more inclined to do a selfie of an interesting place, or just show/describe the place on its own merits without inserting yourself into it? I’m probably inconsistent in that respect; I tend not to take selfies, especially for social media, but when writing posts it’s always from a first person perspective. Is first person narcissism, or is it a way to make a post more interesting and relatable?

    And yes, I do like “likes”, except when they come from folks who are clearly trolling for views/followers and probably haven’t even read the post they “liked.”

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  18. Great post! In response to your question – “Do you think you could take a trip and not post about it on social media?” – NOPE. That’s why I created a whole blog about my travel to Japan. Sigh. I finally succumbed to the “look at me” culture of America. But really I blame my brain. I am addicted to those hits of dopamine that I get whenever I get a “like” on my post. Jessy

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    1. Great honesty! Right there with you but together, with a little self-awareness, I think we can all maintain a healthy balance and still ‘get our fix’. 🙂

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  19. Its true it is a form of narcissm but for me also just the feeling of a productive outcome. Travelling means to be for a long time a dompletly non-productive member of society after we have been trained a lifetime to achieve things. So this little blog I keep gives me the satisfaction of a sort of outcome.

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    1. Interesting take on ‘productive outcome’, I had not thought of it that way. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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  20. Great post man. I share the same feelings. I find myself posting travel pics and feeling guilty or like I’m bragging. “Hey look at me I’m traveling”. I have to remind myself that I’ve worked hard for this and earned every bit of it. I have no sponsors and that is not my intention with my blog. I simply want to inspire people to see the world. Great post man and safe travels.

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    1. Indeed I too am riddled with a sense of guilt sometimes when posting but that is a good way to look at it in regards to our efforts to get where you are. As I’ve said before, it is about a healthy balance and being aware of how our sharing comes across is the first step to ensuring that we maintain our course for inspiring others. Thanks for your thoughts, appreciated!

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  21. I think we all get that touch of guilt and maybe even a touch of embarrassment when we talk about things we do. I feel it when friends introduce me to people and say things like “you should follow her on Facebook” she does so many neat things”. They will then look at me and say something to the effect of “tell them about your adventures.” On the flip side, these same people love hearing about what I am doing and their next question is always to ask what I am doing next. I have a few friends that I have pulled onto some of my spontaneous trips and they love it. As humans, it is what we do. Share. I have gone on little solo trips for a day or two and have posted nothing about it…only because it would have been mind numbingly boring to anyone else. Share away and inspire others to get off of the couch…if they don’t want to read it..they wont.

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  22. I tell myself that I share my travel photos as it’s a way of telling those at home that I’m still alive and kicking…. but let’s face it, I’m a show off….

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  23. Such a good post and so recognizable! We try to differentiate ourselves by putting the focus on the historical, natural or cultural aspect of our journeys… We check our likes all the time as well and have built an engaging crowd who we truly inspire. But yeah… not thousands of followers yet….And hardly ever a picture of us on our website and this we do deliberately (although it is tempting to brag a bit and put selfies on instagram etc. but we just refuse to go for that)

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    1. Put me into the category of people who you inspire 🙂 Thanks for sharing your thoughts and keeping true to a healthy, inspirational relationship with social media.

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  24. Interesting take on this. I’m a novice blogger, so I’m just beginning to experience some of the things you wrote about in this post. There’s something about putting my pictures in the format of my blog and then adding my thoughts on the experience of those pictures that almost makes my experiences feel real and concrete. Whenever I add a new post, I have a mix of fear that what I have to say isn’t all that interesting and a pride that what I have to say is really that interesting. What a strange world this bloggerverse is.

    Happy travels!

    Maegan

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    1. You will develop a community of bloggers. (it takes time) It’s fun, because we all “follow” and comment on one another’s blogs. You’ll start to see the same names/icons and get to know their personalities simply by reading a comment and know…”Oh, that’s so and so” and then you’ll click on their comment to get to their page and say hello!

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  25. Mainly, I post on Facebook for the sake of “recording” moments of what the kids say and do throughout the years as a way of “electronic” scrapbook. It helps me to remember and share with family (grandma, aunts, uncles) and share with our friends for their families, because a lot of things we do, we are meeting those friends and shooting pictures of their kids with our kids, etc. (especially with sports, amusement parks, learning excursions, etc.) Or a shout out that we are here, come join us- like bowling. I think everyone’s purpose is a little different. It is gratifying to see people liking whatever, but there are those “serial” likers that just scroll down and hit LIKE, LIKE, LIKE and don’t even really look. I asked a close friend once, do you really like every single post? She claims she does. She is a very “likeable” person. I’m a little more reserved with my likes, but some days I give them out like crazy. So, it’s okay to broad cast what you are doing…some people are VERY interesting. I have one friend that works in the movie industry and is a huge fan of dressing up for ren-faire and comi-con and she always has very interesting costumes. I’m hitting the like button all the time. (that’s awesome)

    When it comes to blogging, that’s just my artistic release. I’m hoping others will have a connection with me and we can create a little blogging world of friendships. I’m not doing this to have huge numbers of visitors, followers and many likes. I’m doing this as a way to keep this busy mother sane, with opportunity to make friends across the globe. I’m basically going to blog about ME, because it’s a subject I know well. 🙂

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to provide your comments! Your intentions and motivation blogging are refreshing and I give you credit for maintaining your sense of purpose and direction in getting there. It certainly sounds like you have found a healthy balance 🙂

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      1. I still like visitors. (therefore I visit other sites) And I still like comments. (therefore, I take time to comment) Hahahah! – I love meeting people and developing a community of blogger friendships.

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  26. I can certainly relate to this! In my day-to-day life I fear I’m a total travel narcissist and find myself overcompensating by not really sharing any of my experiences. Instead I use my blog as an outlet to exorcise those narcissistic demons; I can write and express whatever I want till my heart’s content, and the audience (including my friends and family) is under no obligation to pay any attention!

    But having people who genuinely like our ramblings is awesome – it’s like making friends, and friends are seriously awesome. As long as we don’t obsess over or force appreciation, and we give the same back to others in the blogosphere, then I think there’s no shame in it 🙂

    But I can’t help but be irritated by those type of “look at me” bloggers… I guess it just doesn’t fit my moral compass, which dictates that only the Gandhis of the world should be successful, famous, etc… hmmmm… it probably is just envy 😉

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    1. Reading through your comment (and the many others that have responded) I am comforted in knowing that I am not alone! I agree that with balance, a sprinkle of self-awareness and a dash of keeping our obsessions in check, what we do can be a healthy release and serve a greater purpose in terms of inspiration and value to our readers. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your feelings!!

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  27. I post up blogs about my travel experiences to get others involved 🙂 I do travel and keep things private too 🙂 even with the blogs I do post when I travel, I only show a tiny amount of the actual trip , nothing personal being shown⭐️🌟

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  28. Putting aside the followers and notifications, social media becomes a lovely record of your life to look back upon and reminisce 🙂 Besides if you like something, why not share it with others, that’s not narcissism, it’s generosity 😉

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  29. truly special or beautiful moments are never shared. Just the periphery. A video or photo of something/someone/someplace beautiful is shared, but the particular experience is subjective.
    To verbalise that particular truthfully keeps it alive for all; but the special, beautiful moments are never shared.

    PS. great writing though. couldn’t have done it better myself 🙂

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    1. So very true although those moments certainly can be shared with your travel partner. I approached this writing from the position of a lone, solo traveler. Thank you so much for taking the time to provide your thoughts, much appreciated and I look forward to following the ‘sharing’ of your adventures 🙂

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  30. Good points. I definitely think being a blogger changes everything. Before I was a blogger, I hardly ever posted my vacations on Facebook and didn’t even have a Twitter account. Now that I have a blog, I definitely post more for my enjoyment, but hope maybe others will also enjoy my posts and get something out of them. I think you have to post everywhere you can in social media sites when you have a blog, and that changes everything.

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  31. Interesting read. I think part of the ‘need to share, how many likes yet?’ comes from the desire to make travel writing into a full time job for a lot of people. More likes means more audience, more publicity and perhaps a company that will notice you and pay for using their product on your next adventure? Narcissist travel is different from this in that a narcissist will just wait hours in one spot to get the ‘perfect shot’ of themselves and stop caring about the true experience, only about how they look in it. I think part of it comes from the eternal struggle a lot of travel bloggers have trying to secure a spot in the already very saturated market of travel writing. This post inspired me though! Keep doing what you’re doing and thanks for the follow, I wouldn’t have found your blog if you hadn’t done that 😛 (and I’m glad I did!)

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    1. Very well thought out and articulated response…thank you for sharing! I agree, often times, especially in the saturated travel blogging community, there is tremendous pressure to ‘stand out’ from the crowd. This certainly isn’t a bad thing if your intentions are pure and we maintain a steady compass towards our objectives. Best wishes to you on your own journey and I look forward to following your writings!!

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  32. That was a great and very honest look into the psychology and ethics of all the ceaseless self-promotion that blogging has turned into. Nevertheless, I think audiences decide for themselves: some enjoy pulp, others stray away from it and look for engaging genuine stories: there is market for both I guess. I usually just stop reading when a post becomes all about ME, ME and ME. It is just not fun or interesting anymore: travel is about getting to know other people, other cultures, other places. Or at least rediscovering your own country through a new angle

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    1. Very well said! It is encouraging to see that bloggers like yourself are out there creating content for the sake of inspiration and genuine intent. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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  33. Love your openness. I started my blog to show people places that are not normally visited. So I take the road not normally traveled and post them. (I am happy to ‘risk that’ for travelers) LOL However many of my experiences NEVER make the blog because they are MY moments and not really to be shared! Glad you see that not all needs to be revealed! 🙂

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    1. This is truly a refreshing comment to read. It sounds like you are on a healthy road to obtaining/maintaining a balanced blog. I look forward to following your endeavor! Cheers!

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  34. HI Geo, great blog, for fear of becoming an enabler, I really enjoyed this refreshing view on the blogisphere.

    Apparently I’m just embarking on becoming a travelling narcissist, so maybe catching it early is the answer before it really takes hold?!? I wonder if I can get a jab?

    More seriously though, as a newby writer I am keen to write things that others enjoy reading. Social media does at least give you feedback that it would take years to get sending off writing to traditional publishers, only to receive standard knock back letters. I’m hoping my blog will enable me to hone my skill, whilst I work on short stories and books that will one day be published. But yes, there is a fine line behind constructive feedback and ego-feeding and I have been surprised also by the little glow I get on receiving a like, I can see how it could become addictive.

    It may be with the wealth of self-published material out there that a ‘proper’ career in writing is increasingly unlikely in modern times unless you are willing to sell out to the corporate sponsorship machine and write (and do) want sponsors want you to as opposed to be driven by what readers truly want to read.

    Nonetheless, in any business customer satisfaction is the number 1 success criteria so narcisist or not, if your blogging is liked by many, then the pleasure is shared so keep blogging!

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    1. ‘Giving the reader what they want, customer service, constructive feedback’…. Oh my, you are certainly on track for success! I agree that selling out to the corporate sponsorship machine can dull one’s impact. Many a successful blogs that I follow seem to fit this pattern but in the end I suppose the important thing is to maintain a healthy balance that relies upon self-awareness and conscious end game visualization. Looking forward to following your journey and a sincere thank you for taking the time to provide your thoughts!

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  35. Love the honesty of this post.I’m guilty about posting my travels on social media, however I did have a healthy break last year when I was travelling so off-grid I had no wifi. Definitely helped to put the reasons why I wanted my camera with me in perspective.

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  36. Well, Geo, I like your honesty! I think my whole blog is a way for me to rid myself of insecurities about myself and how I look and how I write. Strangely, I don’t do any other social media. I find Facebook overwhelming and I like the relative anonymity of WordPress. Somehow, I feel relaxed enough among my literary peers to reveal more than I do to ‘real’ friends. Although I am a published writer and photographer, my blog followers make me glow with pride, perhaps? Thanks for the follow! K 🐈

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    1. This is actually quite refreshing to read. It appears you truly have found a healthy balance and your writing serves as a positive medium for obtaining something that serves you well. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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  37. “Being popular on instagram is like being rich in Monopoly”, this sentence got me to think a lot and is so true. I am ashamed of myself for all the time I would dedicate to IG.
    I for sure can’t travel without a camera constantly in my hand, but I happen not to post trips, bI have 3 in the last 5 months that haven’t yet seen the light..but that’s also because I’m a bit lazy, I suppose they will eventually… do you often post very delayed photos?

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    1. Love that quote and so true. I too am ashamed of time spent dedicated to such a superficial endeavor. I do post delayed photos. I have been traveling for the better part of 10 years but in-between trips I share old content. Thanks again for your comments, love hearing your thoughts!

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  38. What, I read many people feeling ashamed of their travels…why..I only do feel bad when I see some friends are feeling sad at looking at me, so I minimize..but hey at least for my case most of my travels are really low budget, I feel often it’s more a matter of will than of “means”, am I being overly obnoxious about it?

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  39. What an entertaining, and sadly highly accurate post! It really is hard to balance what to share and what not to share, because as travel bloggers we want to show everyone the world! But why do we seek response from our own adventures? Sometimes it is hard to not get wrapped up in the blog world. We do need to take a step back and just be in the moment. I’ve started my blog to encourage other moms that adventuring with your little ones is worth it and you shouldn’t let being a parent stop you from seeing the world, instead, share the world with your children! I hope I can inspire other moms to embrace traveling and to not let anything stop them.

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    1. Yes! It certainly sounds like you are well on your way to a healthy balance while maintaining a sense of self-awareness. Thank you for your thoughts and best wishes on your journey to inspire moms around the world to embark on enriching journeys with their children (a quite awesome endeavor I will add!) 🙂

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  40. Geo, is that Douchebag RV for rent? :–) It would be perfect for my next trip. There is some truth in what you say. 20 years ago we’d come back from a trip and call all of our family, friends & neighbors together and force them to watch the slides from our vacation on our projector. Now we just post the shit and people can ignore them more politely.

    PS – would you mind following my self-indulgent wine country blog: http://www.topochinesvino.com.

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  41. I’m a new reader to your blog but thoroughly enjoying it. I also identify with the same feelings you mentioned about the narcissism of travel blogging. Being ahem, “older,” I’m not as comfortable as the kids are with taking selfies and hate being in the spotlight. My blog’s goal is to provide useful advice and to give product and travel tips; I hope that it comes off that way! I think if people can get inspired or contemplative out of your words, you’ve succeeded. 🙂

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    1. Thank you Pam! Your blog certainly does provide useful advice so rest easy 🙂 I just read your Tokyo post as I need to take a Japan trip. Very well put together blog that doesn’t come across egotistical one bit. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts!

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  42. this is really refreshing. its one thing to document a moment you don’t want to forget and another to force one to get the perfect instagram. with todays possibilities to be well known in social media whether its just their immediate friend group or a larger audience, i believe that many people have taken for granted the travel opportunities or seeing something cool for some sort of social push.

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  43. hahaha you’re so absolutely right. before I started traveling I told myself I would keep off social media and technology for one day each week. that has yet to happen. 😦 in the back of my mind i keep thinking, what if there is that one special shot? and you’re right… in many ways its no longer just for myself.

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